Below is a link for an Attachment Style Inventory. By answering 50 brief questions, you will get a short summary of your attachment style indicating the degree to which you are anxious or avoiding. Remember, these styles aren’t discrete “all or nothing” categories. Rather, these styles are descriptions of our usual or typical responses to relationship distress. Hence, they exist on a continuum of frequency and intensity. It can be very helpful for you and your partner to be aware of your attachment style as you seeking to understand your cycles and what lies underneath them.